How to Close the Gap Between Who You Are and Who You Want to Be

Here’s the brutal truth:

Most people never become who they’re meant to be.

Not because they can’t—

but because they never fully commit.

They get inspired.

Set goals.

Make vision boards…

Then go right back to living like the version of themselves they’re trying to outgrow.

Here’s the shift:

You don’t become your future self by dreaming harder.

You become them by deciding sooner.

It’s not about hustle.

It’s about alignment.

Micro-decisions. Made daily.

That reflect who you’re becoming—

not the patterns you’re trying to break.

Want to close the gap?

Ask yourself:

• What does Future You no longer tolerate? Think about the habits, relationships, or excuses holding you back.

• What needs to stop for growth to begin?

• What needs to end for the next version of you to begin? Growth requires letting go of what no longer serves you—even if it’s uncomfortable.

If you sat across from your 10-years-from-now self… would they be proud of today—or disappointed you’re still stuck here?

Here’s the truth no one says out loud:

The gap doesn’t close with time.

It closes with truth.

Radical. Inconvenient. Motivating truth.

The Tool That Changes Everything

That’s where the 10-Year Letter comes in.

Not a letter to your future self—

a letter from your future self, written in present tense, as if you’re already living the life you were meant to create.

You describe it all:

Your days. Your relationships. Your work. What you’ve let go of. How it feels to be fully aligned.

Writing isn’t just imagining—it’s about feeling your future as if it’s already real. That emotional connection rewires your decisions today, helping you act in alignment with your vision.

Why does it work?

Because the brain doesn’t commit to goals—it commits to stories. And when the story feels real, your decisions start catching up to it.

The Invitation

Don’t just set goals. Don’t just dream bigger. Decide.

Write your 10-Year Letter. Describe your life like it’s already real—then show up like the person who wrote it.

Because the gap doesn’t close with time. It closes with truth.